You can talk about withholding a child from a toxic co-parent — but you have to be careful. I know there are real safety concerns. I know there’s history. I know high-conflict custody cases are exhausting. But unless you have written guidance from a neutral third-party professional (a therapist, physician, GAL, CPS, or a court order) stating the child should not attend visits, you are on very shaky ground. Your role is to encourage the relationship — not force, not shame — and ensure your child